Losing a child

[midgard man]

Have any women here ever been through the devestating part of life when you lose a child to natural death? The reason I ask is because of this scamming blogger that was attempting to get attention or the "feel sorry for me" syndrome. She made up a story about having a child and that child passed away a few hours later. The reason that I bring this up is because this type of situation is real. My wife and I lost a daughter back in 2000. Her name was Alexis Nicole and she was born April 28th, 2000. She was born with Open Spina-Bifida and Hydrocephalus. Meaning she was born with a hole in her back where her spine did not connect which in turn caused her brain to slip down the back of her skull. She was also club-footed. She weighed 13.3 oz. and was 9 1/2 inches long. When you have a child and you know there death is imminent, you feel extremely helpless. We were able to hold her and go over by the windows so she could see what the outside looked like. We were able to tell her we loved her numerous times before watching her take her last breath in our arms. We did up a webpage in her honor and also as something to help us deal with her death. We still to this day have everything she came in contact with on that great, yet tragic day. Here is her webpage that we did so many years ago. Please if you have any questions about a disease that your child has, see our links page on this website. Scroll down to our story and the links will be on the "next page" http://www.geocities.com/pageofhope

I would really like to hear what others think on this particular issue, because like it or not, it can happen to the best of us.

[Wolf Warrior]

I lost my first born son Michael timothy lee, to sids. He was 4 months old, he died 5 days before i was medically discharged from the military. I am very sorry for your loss brother, it truely saddens me to know you too have experienced such a loss, and it infuriates me that someone would be low enough to make up a bogus story about a like tragedy.

[1voice]

That's just sick. Only someone who has never been through something like this..... I'm sorry for both of your losses. Carrying my three month old daughter's casket by myself, while my friends and family looked on is something that haunts me at night too. In 2003 I had a little girl named samantha. Her mother drank and took ***** up until she was 3 months pregnant (unknowingly) and continued to smoke for the duration.
Samantha was born with a small tear in her stomach, which a small part of her intestines stuck out from and because she came 6 weeks early her lungs were not able to function on thier own. The doctors told us that these problumes were common and easily fixable but, she kept getting infections from the needles and IV punctures. After about 3 weeks the doctors became relentless in asking me for permission to turn off the machine that was breathing for her. I told them where to go and sat day after day hoping for the best. She really looked bad, her whole body was swollen from all the medications. But one day she was able to get just one eye open and look at me. In the end when her blood became acidic and her liver was starting to fail, I gave in and told them to shut the machine down. They took us to a private room and gave her to me. It was the only time that I was ever able to hold her. She lived for about 10 minutes and died in my arms.

[crystalmoondragon]

It is never easy to lose a child. Out of 7 pregnancies i have on child. And i am truly blessed for her. I lost the babies mostly between 5 to 8 months, but one was stillborn and one dies at a few months old. My living daughter was a twin, i lost her twin brother a few months after birth. Why anyone would want to pretend that is beyond me. I never want anyone to have to go thru that. So sorry for your loss.

[Ragnar Odhinnsson]

I don't even like to think about it. My daughter is 2 months old and I love her more than anything else. I can't imagine anything happening to her. I'm sorry for the losses. Our children are our future.

[Siinda]

It's very easy to lose a child in the early terms and perhaps more painful in the latter. I've lost a few pregnancies early on and I don't think I could handle losing one with my partner now. The best dream I have is a big family if I couldn'yt have that I'd be one pissed off chick. My guy is a bit different he'd just say oh well try again, rofl.

[TreeOfLifeFamily]

It is never easy to lose a child. Out of 7 pregnancies i have on child. And i am truly blessed for her. I lost the babies mostly between 5 to 8 months, but one was stillborn and one dies at a few months old. My living daughter was a twin, i lost her twin brother a few months after birth. Why anyone would want to pretend that is beyond me. I never want anyone to have to go thru that. So sorry for your loss.

I'm so sorry to hear of your losses Sister. My husband (MidgardMan) and I have lost two chidlren. Alexis the one described in the beginning of this thread and we had a miscarraige after our oldest son waas born, so I know what you are going through. We were blessed with beautiful, healthy twin baby boys in November, so we now have 5 children, but it's still very heartbreaking and hard to get over the loss of your child/children.

I'm very sorry to hear of all of your losses. My condolences to all of you here.

[hulk2099]

I am truly sorry for all your losses. i have no idea what yall must have gone thru. my son is 5 months old and i dont know what i would do if i lost him. i am sorry.