Coping with losses....

[Thomas]

I know this is quite trivial really but I was wondering, are there any poems or things alike I could find solace in....I lost someone I held dear to me not too long ago (not a death) as a result of a really ridiculous circumstance which shouldn't have happened and I have not been able to easily recover from it.

Thomas

[pinlighter]

I can't think of any thing, Thomas, but I wish you comfort in your loss.

[Thomas]

Ah, no problem. Thank you. I've got somewhere in resolving my loss I guess, it's nothing fatal, just came very abruptly after things were well. Keeps coming back and "haunting" me though. Ah well :) Just need to take it like a man and remain stoic. Can't let a bit of trouble affect my learning and daily life.

Thomas

[Katia]

I have always liked Nietzsche's words, What doesn't kill you makes you stronger. It has gotten me through many rough a time!

[Der Einzelgänger]

I as well. Pick up a Nietzsche book and you can't go wrong. I've loved all his books, maybe with exception of Birth of Tragedy.

"Nothing that oppresses me and dominates me is true; everything that allows me to express the love of life is permited. In other words, what the established values view as chaos, the new prinicples hold to be vitality and freedom."

"I am a railing alongside the torrent; whoever is able to grasp me, may grasp me. Your crutch however I am not."

Ok well I could talk about Nietzsche all day. Thomas, I would recommend atleast reading some of his books, or passages, most of which can be found online.

[Thomas]

You know what, I have realised this hinderance who I thought I could trust and devote myself to isn't worth it unless I get an apology for the times I have been messed around. To be honest....I wouldn't be surprised if everything she said was meant as a complete joke, but anyway, I'll see what happens....

Thanks for the advice everyone, even though I feel better. I will pick up those Nietzsche books you suggested anyway :).

Thomas

[Teufelhunden]

Ya know it sounds corny and not what anyone wants to hear at a time like this, but when you look later it makes sense and seems to work this way.
Time heals all wounds, and in time you will get over it and realize that it was not worth it.
take care man and hang in there
Teufelhunden

[God's Helm]

No man should trust a maiden's words,
Nor what a woman speaks:
Spun on a wheel were women's hearts,
In their breasts was implanted caprice.

Brother I am sorry for your woes. I think that words of comfort and solace are missing from much of the stories that we still have. They may have existed once, but no more. Then again maybe it is because we shouldn't be alone at such times and need to seek others to feel right again.


Young and alone on a long road,
Once I lost my way:
Rich I felt when I found a another;
Man rejoices in man.

The mind alone knows what is near the heart,
Each is his own judge:
The worst sickness for a wise man
Is to crave what he cannot enjoy.

But don't let it keep you down. Many, many of your ancestors went through the same thing and they made it. Be strong of heart and sharp of eye. Things will change faster than you'd expect if you do.


It befits a man to be merry and glad
Until the day of his death.

[Asbrandsson OR]

I know this is quite trivial really but I was wondering, are there any poems or things alike I could find solace in....I lost someone I held dear to me not too long ago (not a death) as a result of a really ridiculous circumstance which shouldn't have happened and I have not been able to easily recover from it.

Thomas

Hello,

I would try Egil's Saga, I believe Sonnatok (probably spelt wrong) would fit the situation. When Egil's last son died he was going to stop eating and die until his daughter came to him and tricked him into sucking on seed weed, which makes you thirsty. Then he composed the poem as a way to release his frustration and grief.

I think that history shows us that there are many ways to deal with loss, but one of them is not to bottle it up inside.

Asbrandsson OR

[Thomas]

Ah, the problem I have with things like this is that I bottle feelings up inside because I am stoic most of the time but sometimes things go a bit too far like now and I have to seek a bit of help to ease things :).

The things I find out just get worse....I think she might have been involved with *****. I definitely know she drinks all the time too and openly expresses it. Which pretty much cries out "infidelity" to me. I've made such a mistake! :o

But I guess I can learn from my mistake and try to laugh it off, just get back to learning and stop being so weak :).

Thomas

[Loki's Advocate]

Trust me: from what I've seen, to want what you shouldn't have is better that to have it, not want it, and not need it. Or something.

Eyes forward, soldier! Don't look back, or you won't see what's right in front of you!