Weird Question

[damonrunehammer]

Okay.. This may seem like a strange question. How might I go about appraoching my next door neighbor, who is obviously asatruar? I am very much interested in forming a kindred around this area, but I also don't want to come off as a stalker, or as a weirdo. I know some other heathens in this area, whom I have never spoken to. I am just very interested in getting something around this area started, and I don't want to invade his privacy. Maybe I should just get the courage and just approach him about it, or comment him on the mjolnir decal on his car. How would you guys feel if someone approached you about it?

[Norsk Blod]

next time you see him, comment on it. if your sure hes an asatruer mention not having a kindred and starting one and if he would be interested

[aud_friggsdottir]

Why not just approach him as a neighbor? What a great opportunity! I think you should just say hello and tell him you noticed his sticker and was curious. I wouldn't come off very strong, just as a friendly neighbor that has similar interests. Then after a while if you both are compatible and are better friends then consider a Hearth. Don't put the cart before the horse...so to speak.

Let us know how things go. I hope he is a good person! I wish our neighbors (on our street) were Heathens.

[Katia]

I just wanted to say WOW lucky you!! That is awesome!

[Sigurd]

I'd just talk to him as a neighbor, and then at some point change the topic to this.

[Katia]

Women have it easier in this type of case.. We can just bake a cake or muffins or whatever and bring them over then strike up a conversation.. I guess if a guy did that, it might be considered a little fruity ;)

[heilwotan]

I'd just talk to him as a neighbor, and then at some point change the topic to this.

Good advice here, let me add that you should get to know him first without revealing yourself too much because you dont know what kind of "Asatruar" he is: Folkish, Universalist,and etc., for an example. This is important IMO because this will give you the upper-hand on how to break the ice on a faith discussion.

[Sigurd]

Good advice here, let me add that you should get to know him first without revealing yourself too much because you dont know what kind of "Asatruar" he is: Folkish, Universalist,and etc., for an example. This is important IMO because this will give you the upper-hand on how to break the ice on a faith discussion.

True. You should consider these things as well.

[Hveðrungur Kveldúlfsson]

Women have it easier in this type of case.. We can just bake a cake or muffins or whatever and bring them over then strike up a conversation.. I guess if a guy did that, it might be considered a little fruity ;)

Hey I can bake!!! :mad:


Kidding, he could always invite him over for a few beers and a BBQ? I'm sure a conversation would start on Damon's mjollnir :cool:

[damonrunehammer]

Thanks a lot for the advice, everyone. I really appreciate it. I'll keep all of this in mind. You all have been very helpful. I'll be sure to let you guys know what happens. Who knows, maybe Ohio will have a newly formed kindred after this all goes through? :)

[Hveðrungur Kveldúlfsson]

I think a Kindred is something you dont just jump into man. It takes a few years to form a kindred, its got to be a group of people you would trust with your life, people you know like the back of your hand and vice versa. It is like a second family and it takes more than a few weeks to form a real strong bond like that with folk. I wish you luck though man, get to know the guy, become friends and give it some time. Find out his views on things and have real discussions so nothing pops out months after you start your group and someone ends up leaving becasue of arguments. It can happen, after you get to know the guy and if you two feel you would want to start your own kindred go for it. I think it would be a great idea.

[damonrunehammer]

Oh, I totally agree. I am just trying to get to know people right now. I know basically noone on a personal basis that shares my faith. People know about my faith, but I have never really discussed it with anyone similar. Hopefully this opens some doors. That is all I am looking for right now. Thanks a lot for the input though. I wouldn't ever want to be involved in worshipping the gods with someone who I didn't know was sincerely dedicated. Very good points.

[ensonulv]

If you approched me and weren't some fluffy turd I'd be exited. Make sure when you see him it's more than a brush off conersation. Like when a stranger walking your way says "hi how are you" because they are uncomfertable when your eyes finaly meet. Know what i mean?

[heilwotan]

Since I dont see anymore activity in this thread, whats the out come? Did you break the ice with your neighbor?

[damonrunehammer]

I haven't seen him in a while. I'll definitely let you guys know what the outcome is. I have been a hermit for a while, so I'll let you know. Thanks for the help, guys.

[VoyerJetti]

Good advice here, let me add that you should get to know him first without revealing yourself too much because you dont know what kind of "Asatruar" he is: Folkish, Universalist,and etc., for an example. This is important IMO because this will give you the upper-hand on how to break the ice on a faith discussion.
Not that I really know, ;) but... that would be the most casual and I think best way to go about it. That would be my vote out of all these suggestions so far.

[damonrunehammer]

About twenty minutes ago, I went next door and gave Mark, my neighbor, a World Tree Publications catalog, and introduced myself. We ended up speaking for about ten minutes, and it was very laid back. He is folkish, and I also found out that what attracted him to the house was the trees. Well, it turns out, that earlier in 2004, I had made some runes, and de-charged them, and discarded them in a TREE next door. I mentioned it, and he was sort of stunned. haha. He said "well, it was like it was meant to be". It was a strange moment. He also has a huge book collection. So anyway, I have made a new friend by getting the courage to go over and offer a World Tree catalog. haha. In his words "it's a small world". Thanks everyone for the encouragement.

[Katia]

Wow! Now that is weird! err... wyrd! :D

[aud_friggsdottir]

Great news! Thanks for the update and Wyrd indeed!

FFF

[Outdoorsman]

That's awesome! :D

[Skaukatt]

:D I am personally not the type to initiate any conversations with neighbours, but if you feel somehow drawn to this person/s...go ahead. ;)

[beowulf]

Ha. If I had a decent neighbor with a Mjolnir decal on his car I'd overcome any shyness quite easily,especially if there were actually another heathen or potential heathen in my little ky. town. I'm a member of a kindred in Nashville,Tenn. about an hour and a half away from my home, just got started in January. Met the Folks off of the asatru folk assembly site via contacts. Most of them are from Tennesee, one's from Alabama, and I'm the only one from Ky.